My violin case
was cheap, made from a super-hard cardboard material. It got me by though, when I didn’t drag it on
the floor. But one particular day I dragged
it. I was using it, going from 2nd to 3rd period classes,
as if it were a walking cane. I was in 9th grade. I didn’t need a
walking cane.
My parents had
gotten me started on violin lessons in Decorah, Iowa, where I spent most of my
early boyhood. Orinne Docken was a good teacher. I recall being intrigued when I heard the
advanced music a neighbor boy was able to play. He was about five years
older. But now that I was five years
older myself, I was at Stewart Junior High in Tacoma, and it wasn’t cool to
play violin. Basketball was cool.
Trumpet was cool. But not violin. The walking cane pose was pretty lame, but it
helped take the edge off my self-consciousness.
I am now 64. I teach violin. I serve as a pastor at a rural
Midwest church, and I use music teaching to connect with young people. The surprise for me however, has been that I
enjoy it. Teaching music lessons adds a component to my ministry that otherwise
would be missing. There are many aspects to this. Certainly I have to keep up
my own chops in regular playing. In addition, though, I have the privilege of
working with children and helping them develop learning skills. This takes some extra effort on my part. How
does one help a left-handed child develop the many skills necessary in bowing
with the right (and correct) hand? The details are myriad. Another is the avoidance
and fear of printed music: often kids will favor the intuitive approach, where
you just guess at the pitches and try to imitate the teacher’s finger motions. There are many types of hurdles, but for me
one thing stands out. I see myself in the kids, with my earlier period of
learning and struggling. I’m still trying to be a learner myself, of course,
but I can identify with their
struggles. I try to help them through barriers with various means of
encouragement and bite-size exercises.
These days, however,
I find that I have a treasure to share. What we have to endure when we’re
younger can be a pain in the rear. But by God’s grace it can become a treasure,
if we don’t run from the toughness of the training. My parents gently but
firmly kept encouraging me.
What did you
learn in your growing years? Can you
take it and use it with someone currently in the trenches? Tell them your story
may encourage them. Be there for them
and listen to them a bit. However the Lord leads, I hope that you will find
things you endured that will help someone else stick with the program. The alternative, all too often, is to hear a
person later in life say what I have heard too many times: “Oh, I wish I had
never quit music lessons.”
Whether its music,
mechanical skills, science, or whatever – encourage them. Hang in there! Don’t
quit!
